By Lee Dresie | Pounding The Rock (PtR), 2026-03-08 13:30:00
大多数人都听说过“悲伤的五个阶段”。正如作家大卫·凯斯勒 (David Kessler) 所描述的那样：
“五个阶段——否认、愤怒、讨价还价、抑郁和接受——构成了我们学会与失去的人共处的框架。它们是帮助我们构建和识别自身感受的工具。但它们并非悲伤线性时间轴上的固定站点。并非每个人都会经历所有阶段，也不会完全按照预设的顺序经历。”
但我今天写的不是悲伤。不，我写的是希望——希望的五个阶段。马刺队最近有两场比赛，球迷们现实地认为我们心爱的球队根本没有获胜的希望。
其中一场是二月一个寒冷的猛龙队主场之夜，也是背靠背的第二场。（“多伦多的二月之夜”这句话前面总是跟着“大雪”、“严寒”或“冰冷”。）就在前一个晚上，马刺队在一场对抗极其激烈的比赛中击败了拥有“全联盟最佳战绩”且防守排名NBA第一的活塞队。而在仅仅24小时后的多伦多，马刺在第三节还剩不到一分钟时以75-90落后。虽然球迷们几乎不抱希望，但球员们却有别的想法。在进入第四节前投进一记三分将分差缩小到12分后，马刺在最后一节打出了32-17的比分，最终以110-107逆转取胜。从某些方面来说，这场胜利比前一晚的胜利更令人印象深刻。
上周五对阵快船队的比赛或许更加不可思议。同样，这场比赛发生在对阵底特律活塞队 (Detroit Pistons) 的那场充满情感的回归之战后的24小时。在那场比赛中，维克托·文班亚马 (Victor Wembanyama) 出战了赛季新高的39分钟，这意味着他在对阵快船时面临严格的出场时间限制。更糟糕的是，马刺的落后幅度比对阵猛龙时还要大，在第三节一度以50-75落后。看看在科怀·莱昂纳德 (Kawhi Leonard) 命中三分让快船领先25分后，ESPN给出的快船获胜概率：
+3分 9:23 – 第三节
科怀·莱昂纳德命中26英尺三分跳投（克里斯·邓恩 (Kris Dunn) 助攻）
75-50
胜率：快船，98.8%
马刺队再次让希望延续。他们在第三节多拿了9分（感谢朱利安·尚帕尼 (Julian Champagnie)！），在第四节多拿了15分。是的，希望是一种强大的力量。
但希望并非凭空产生，也不是在多伦多或圣安东尼奥的体育馆里突然或魔术般出现的。就像悲伤一样，希望也有阶段之分。像悲伤一样，希望也会在不同的人或球队身上，以不同的阶段和顺序产生。
对于这支马刺队，我认为发展希望的第一阶段源于组织的实力。或许我们可以将这个阶段描述为拥有坚实的基础或核心——马刺凭借其卓越的成功历史，无疑提供了这一点。这也意味着树立正确的习惯。即使在球队没有赢球的时候，教练组也确保球员们以正确的方式打球，学习那些让赢球成为可能的战术体系和努力程度。
马刺旅程的第二阶段是规划。即使过程很痛苦，马刺管理层也在规划他们的未来。这意味着交易掉像德章泰·默里 (Dejounte Murray) 和德里克·怀特 (Derrick White) 这样受欢迎且才华横溢的球员。虽然管理层和球迷都热爱这些球员的贡献，但他们知道这些球员无法将球队带到我们渴望的高度。甚至去年签下克里斯·保罗 (Chris Paul) 的一年合同，也是规划和学习过程的一部分。
马刺的下一个阶段是好运——在正确的时间出现在正确的地方。对于马刺来说，这发生在他们在文班亚马进入选秀的同一年抽中了状元签。我们可以称这个阶段为“机遇”。其他人可能会称之为“宿命”。当然，整个NBA都为他能加盟拥有成功历史和稳健组织的马刺而感到高兴。将渴望成功的他与一家以成功著称的俱乐部结合在一起，简直是天作之合。虽然马刺很幸运能选中他，但管理层的智慧也促成了斯蒂芬·卡斯尔 (Stephon Castle) 和迪兰·哈珀 (Dylan Harper) 的加盟——还有在上次选秀中以第14顺位选中卡特·布莱恩特 (Carter Bryant) 这一被低估的选择。
第四个阶段曾经是，现在依然是耐心。马刺并没有试图在重回巅峰的道路上跳过任何步骤。他们为了引进人才而进行的唯一一次重大交易是换来了德安龙·福克斯 (De’Aaron Fox)，这是一名真心想来圣安东尼奥打球的球员。而且得到福克斯并不需要挥霍大量的未来资产——他们放弃的唯一一个自己的选秀权是明年的首轮签。那个签位肯定会在20顺位之后，因此是可以承受的损失。
希望的第五个阶段是信念——这是前四个步骤的必然产物。由于坚实的基础、周密的规划、抓住机遇的好运以及坚持计划的耐心，马刺队、球员和球迷现在可以真诚地相信，一切都会开花结果。因为球员和教练组相信他们可以比所有人预期的更好，他们现在已经显著领先于所有人的进度，但这并未超出他们自己的计划。这就是为什么我们都寄予厚望，不仅是为了光明的未来，也是为了这令人目眩神迷的当下。
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The San Antonio Spurs and the five stages of hope
Most people have heard of the five stages of grief. As described by author David Kessler:
“The five stages — denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance — are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling.But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief. Not everyone goes through all of them or in a prescribed order.”
But I am not writing about grief today. No, I am writing about hope — the five stages of hope. The Spurs have had two recent games in which fans realistically had no hope that our favorite team could pull out a win.
One of those games was the second of a back-to-back on a cold February night in Toronto. (The words “February night in Toronto” are always preceded either by “snowy”, ‘freezing” or “cold”.) The night before, the Spurs had beaten the “best record in the league” Pistons in an extremely physical game against the number one defense in the NBA. In Toronto barely 24 hours later, the Spurs trailed 90-75 with less than a minute left in the third quarter. While fans had little to no hope, the players had other thoughts. After making a three to close the gap to 12 entering the fourth, the Spurs outscored the home team by 32-17 in the final quarter to win by 110-107. In some ways, that win was more impressive than the win the night before.
Last Friday against the Clippers was perhaps even more unlikely. Once again, it came 24 hours after an emotional homecoming win against those same Pistons in which Victor Wembanya played a season-high 39 minutes, which meant he was on a severe minutes restriction against the Clippers. Even worse, the Spurs fell behind by even more than in the Raptor game, trailing 75-50 in the third quarted. Check out the ESPN odds of the Clippers winning after Kawhi Leonard’s three put the Clippers up by 25 points:
+3 Points 9:23 – 3rd
Kawhi Leonard makes 26-foot three point jumper (Kris Dunn assists)
75-50
Win %: LAC, 98.8
Once again, the Spurs kept hope alive, outscoring the Clippers by 9 in the third quarter (thank you, Julian Champagnie!) and by 15 in the fourth. Yes, hope is a powerful thing.
But hope does not spring from nothing, nor does it occur suddenly or magically in a gym in Toronto or San Antonio. Like grief, hope comes in stages. Like grief, hope can arise in people, or teams, after different stages and in different orders.
For this Spurs team, I believe the first stage of developing hope arose from the strength of the organization. Perhaps we can describe this stage as having a solid foundation or core — the Spurs, with their remarkable history of success, certainly provide that. This also meant instilling the right habits. Even when the team was not winning, the coaches insured the players played the right way and learned the structure and effort that makes winning possible.
The second stage in the Spurs journey was planning. Even when painful to do so, the Spurs organization planned their future. This meant trading away popular and talented players such as Dejounte Murray and Derrick White. While the organization and fans loved what those players contributed, they knew that they could not bring the team to the level we wanted. Even bringing in Chris Paul on a one-year deal last year was part of the planning, and learning, process.
The next stage for the Spurs was good fortune — being in the right place at the right time. For the Spurs, this happened when they won the lottery the same year that Victor entered the draft. We can call this stage “opportunity”. Others could call this “karma”. Certainly the entire NBA was happy that he landed with the Spurs, with their history of success and their solid organization. Pairing him, with his immense desire to succeed, with an organization known for its success, has been a perfect marriage. And while the Spurs were fortunate to be the team to select him, the organization’s intelligence led to the drafting of Stephon Castle and Dylan Harper — plus the under-rated selection in the last draft of Carter Bryant with the 14th pick,
The fourth stage was, and remains, patience. The Spurs have not attempted to skip any steps on their way back to relevance. The only significant trade they have made to bring in talent was the trade for De”Aaron Fox, a player who really wanted to come play in San Antonio. And acquiring Fox did not require squandering significant future capital — the only one of their picks surrendered was next year’s first round pick. That pick will surely be in the high 20’s, and thus reasonably expendable.
The fifth stage of hope is belief — an outgrowth of the prior four steps. Because of the solid foundation, the careful planning, the good fortune to take advantage of opportunity, and the patience to stick with it the plan, the Spurs, their players and their fans now can sincerely believe that this will all come together. And because the players and coaching staff believed that they could be better than everyone else predicted, they are now significantly ahead of everyone else’s schedule, but not their own. Which is why we all have high hopes, not only for the bright future but also for the blindingly breathtaking present.
By Lee Dresie, via Pounding The Rock